It is hard for females because they or should I say, we, feel the
need to maintain a certain grace and reputation. Ladies have found comfort in
being less expressive about their wants, desires and feelings for fear of being
called names. They have resorted to telling lies about some aspects of their
lives or keeping them secret. Those who don't want to tell lies go for
the latter. As a matter of fact we all go for the latter because if you lie about
something, then the truth is a secret. Here are ten secrets that females usually
keep:
1- The age at which they lost their virginities.
Some ladies are 'lucky' enough to have lost their virginities at
decent ages; others unfortunately didn't get the chance to wait that long.
Perhaps by their inabilities to resist their curiosities, or because of
circumstances beyond their control, like rape for instance. Either ways a woman
would prefer to keep the age at which she lost her virginity a secret if she
knows that she would be called names, misunderstood or stigmatized if she spoke
the truth.
2- The number of guys they have had sexual relations with.
Unfortunately, in our world ladies are not expected to sleep with
many guys before getting married. The huge question here is: 'how many guys
are considered 'many' guys?'. Nobody defines that benchmark but when a lady
clearly states the number of guys she has been with, she gets called names or
becomes negatively popular. Nobody likes to be called those kind of names, so
the truth is better kept secret.
3- Their relationship statuses
Everybody goes through the 'I-want-to-be-single-for-now' phase,
where they are single but far from searching. So to maintain that status quo
they sometimes have to lie about it, so that they will have reason to be left
alone by those 'wanna-be-heartbreakers' who persistently come lurking around.
Also some naughty girls may be in a relationship but they just want to flirt,
so they'll keep the truth about their relationships secret.
4- Their academic accomplishments.
No guy wants to be with a dumb girl and no girl likes to admit
that she is really dumb. So they keep their average and below-average results
to themselves. Some girls actually lie about how far they have gone in the
academic ladder.
5- The potencies of their lovers.
There is a common tendency for a girl to lie about her lover's
potency; financially, sexually and emotionally just to make her friends to feel that she is superior or better than them. LOL. Pathetic I must say, but it is real. They
say stuff like "He gives me monthly allowance", "He takes me to all the fancy
places around", "He is the one who furnished my apartment" and the list goes on,
when it is all false. They keep the real details of their relationships secret.
6- The number of times they have gotten pregnant.
Unwanted pregnancies are no longer a secret. Some girls accept it
and ignore all odds to proceed into the delivery of the child and others don't
feel ready to be moms so they abort. But a girl would hardly admit that she has
aborted, or worst still the number of times she has aborted for fear to be
stigmatized. They'd rather keep it secret.
7- The real reasons for the split of one or more of their previous
relationships
It is hard for a girl to admit to her peers that she was dumped.
They always find a way to make it sound as though they had the final say even
if they didn't. After a break up some girls want to put up an 'I-don't-give-a-damn attitude", so they lie about how it happened by saying stuff
like "I gave him a piece of my mind", "I blasted him properly" meanwhile they
were on their knees, in a pool of tears in front of the guy when he said it was over.
8- Their financial statuses
A girl is always broke... to a guy though. They always need and
never have enough. They keep their cash statuses secret in order to keep their purses loaded. When asked "Do
you have transport fare to go back home?" the answer is always "no" even when
they do. They never have airtime in their phones as well. They always want airtime
refills...
9- The kind of guys they
have dated before
Some girls like to give false impressions to create false
reputations and intimidate their peers. They lie about their exes.
They package them like 'the biggest fishes' in town, 'the ladies-loves of the
city', meanwhile they have never been with those guys, except in their dreams
maybe. They keep the fact that they have been with 'loosers' and 'have-nots',
secret.
10- The guys they like.
Some girls deny to have feelings for guys they actually like
because they are not upto the social standards of the guys their friends are
dating. They'd rather go along with the negatives their friends are pointing
out of the guy rather than what they feel for the guy. That feeling will
unfortunately be held secret.